Bending Reality: How to Make the Impossible Probable

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The one thing that science tells us for certain is that we still do not know everything – especially about seemingly ‘one-off’ events. They look bolder, they’re bigger actions, and we’re willing to take when we’re playing small, when we’re playing not to lose, when we’re afraid of looking silly.

In SCAN I’ve made it slightly easier by labelling that space as a domain of the ‘Not-known’, but there’s a very good reason why the outerward edges are often described as ‘Chaos’: it is chaotic, and in many cases can be darn scary – at least until we develop our skills in ‘being comfortable with being uncomfortable’. So, just consider the possibility – the possibility – that it all happened just as I’ve described it. One of the tips that I have for any leader who wants to navigate change is to check in, ask yourself, are these fears rational? We are dedicated to providing you with an extensive selection of science fiction books from a variety of authors and publishers. After studying economics at Yale and leadership at Harvard, she received her most valuable learnings from over 24 of the world’s best coaches, therapists and alternative healers who teach lessons not available in even the most exclusive universities.I find that a lot of entrepreneurs and just high achievers in general are often driven by a fear of failure, a fear of maybe like being humiliated, doing something embarrassing, what might people think about them.

Again in SCAN terms, we can move just about any distance toward and away from the ‘point of action’ – the baseline of the frame – but we stay well over to the left-hand side. Yet any decisions and interpretations that you made about the content of the information itself were not and could not be based on fact, because you had no access to concrete fact about it. Can help you get that energy and feel expanded by the activity versus again, like feeling, why do I have to do this? One thing that I would say is, you can make it 2 by 2 where you just have the columns, the things that I love things that I don’t love and then things that I am good at and then things that I’m not good at is your rows, and then just categorizing every activity that you do day to day with your job into one of those boxes and ideally, you’re in the quadrant of things that I love and things that I’m really good at. I think it’s so interesting how much our self-worth gets tangled up into different narratives and everyone has a different story around why, what we’ve done or couldn’t do, impacts our worthiness and I had my version and history of that and I’d say that, yes, I think that if we can heal that coding, it does, spill into our potential and business or potential, the amount of money we can make, how we take care of ourselves, the kind of love we can attract.Allison: I think outsourcing is a really outstanding example of like, what it’s getting us outside of our zone of genius. One of the more accessible – and certainly eye-opening, if in a carefully metaphoric sense – of the Chaos Magic texts is ‘Ramsey Dukes’, SSOTBME: again, recommended, though perhaps only if you’re willing to accept the ‘occasional forays into the overly implausible’ (as was once said about one of my own books! your answer would probably have been ‘No’ – yet you also probably wouldn’t have been able to see the emotion that actually underpins that decision.

Yet straight away we run into Gooch’s Paradox: if you don’t believe it, how are you going to see any evidence that contradicts those existing beliefs? What’s an event that you felt really grateful for, something that felt really good when it happened? She then deployed the skills and tools she'd learned with a diverse group of the world's highest performers. It matters in our everyday work because we deal with many, many different stakeholders and stakeholder-groups – and every one of them will have their own specific and literally peculiar beliefs. What would be some of a technique that you would employ to help someone see beyond the local maximum of they’re in?An alternate term for ‘belief’ in this context is ‘religion’: belief as in a creed or credo – literally, ‘I believe’. Again, from that clear, calm, relaxed, expansive, grounded place of gratitude and excitement, can you then feel into the vision. That’s almost the definition of the cause of a mythquake: a misplaced assumption of certainty about something that’s inherently uncertain.